The relationship between Oh Dae-su and Lee Woo-jin in *Oldboy* (2003) is a masterclass in psychological warfare, evolving from a casual, forgotten encounter into an all-consuming, god-and-mortal dynamic.
The following is an event-by-event breakdown of how their relationship evolves:
### 1. The High School Incident (The Forgotten Catalyst)
* **The Event:** While in high school, an ordinary Oh Dae-su witnesses Lee Woo-jin and his sister, Lee Soo-ah, in an intimate moment. Not fully grasping the gravity of the situation, Dae-su casually mentions this to a friend.
* **Relationship Dynamic:** At this stage, the relationship is asymmetrical and largely one-sided. Dae-su is a "careless observer" who quickly forgets the event. Woo-jin, however, becomes a "traumatized victim." Dae-su’s gossip spirals into rumors of Soo-ah’s pregnancy, leading to her suicide. From this moment, Woo-jin’s entire existence is redefined by Dae-su, whom he views as his sister's "murderer."
### 2. The 15-Year Imprisonment (The Jailer and the Pet)
* **The Event:** On the day of his daughter’s birthday in 1988, Dae-su is kidnapped and locked in a private prison for 15 years. He is given no explanation, only a television for company.
* **Relationship Dynamic:** This is a "God-and-Mortal" dynamic. Woo-jin acts as an invisible, omnipotent force, watching Dae-su’s every move through cameras. He isn't just punishing Dae-su; he is "cultivating" him. He frames Dae-su for his wife's murder and ensures Dae-su’s daughter is raised in a way that serves his future plot. Dae-su, meanwhile, develops a monomaniacal hatred for an unknown "Entity X," effectively becoming a weapon forged by Woo-jin.
### 3. The Release and the Challenge (The Cat and Mouse)
* **The Event:** Dae-su is suddenly released in 2003. He soon encounters Woo-jin, who is calm, wealthy, and youthful. Instead of killing Dae-su, Woo-jin presents a challenge: Dae-su has five days to discover *why* he was imprisoned. If he succeeds, Woo-jin will kill himself; if he fails, he will kill the woman Dae-su has fallen in love with (Mi-do).
* **Relationship Dynamic:** This is a "Controlled Quest." Woo-jin treats Dae-su like a "pet" or an experiment. He mocks Dae-su’s 15 years of physical training, showing that physical strength is useless against his psychological trap. He financially supports Dae-su’s investigation, ensuring his "mouse" follows the correct path.
### 4. The Investigation (The Mirroring)
* **The Event:** Dae-su retraces his steps to their old high school and identifies "Evergreen" (Woo-jin). He begins to remember the gossip he spread.
* **Relationship Dynamic:** The gap between them narrows. Dae-su moves from blind rage to the horrifying realization of his own "sin." He starts to see Woo-jin not just as a monster, but as a man fueled by the same level of grief and vengeance that he himself feels.
### 5. The Penthouse Confrontation (The Ultimate Subjugation)
* **The Event:** In the final confrontation, Woo-jin reveals the ultimate twist: through hypnosis and meticulous planning, he orchestrated for Dae-su to fall in love and have sex with Mi-do, who is actually Dae-su's own daughter.
* **Relationship Dynamic:** The "Oedipal Tragedy." The power dynamic shifts to total subjugation. Dae-su, once a man of violence and pride, is reduced to a "dog." He literally barks, licks Woo-jin’s shoes, and cuts off his own tongue to atone for the gossip that started it all. Woo-jin has successfully forced Dae-su to live through the exact same taboo shame (incest and the loss of a loved one) that Woo-jin lived through.
### 6. The Resolution (The Hollow Victory)
* **The Event:** Having completed his revenge, Woo-jin enters an elevator, hallucinates his sister's death one last time, and commits suicide. Dae-su seeks a hypnotist to erase the knowledge that Mi-do is his daughter.
* **Relationship Dynamic:** "Mutual Destruction." Woo-jin realizes that even "perfect" revenge cannot bring back his sister or fill his internal void; he dies because he no longer has a purpose. Dae-su is left "free" but psychologically shattered. Their relationship concludes with a shared tragedy: both men chose revenge over the living (Dae-su's daughter/Woo-jin's sister's memory), and both lost their humanity in the process.